Recently I was blessed to hear Melissa Wiley, the author of the term “Tidal Homeschooling” at the Brave Writer Homeschool retreat along with the fabulous Julie Bogart. Listening to these mentors who spoke on Updating Charlotte Mason to the 21st Century and Tidal Homeschooling, I found a new appreciation for Charlotte Mason’s philosophies and for relaxing and going with the flow.
Getting to meet the Fabulous Julie Bogart in person was the highlight of my trip!
For some time now I have been a huge fan of Julie Bogart and Melissa Wiley. These amazing women are full of wisdom and knowledge. If you haven’t listened or read anything by either of them, you must drop what you are doing and begin immediately.
Julie’s talks are like therapy… or maybe like chocolate. I’m not sure which, but I always feel revived after I listen to her speak. She is a homeschool mentor who she speaks from the heart.
Melissa’s soft-spoken approach is different but complementary. Her approach to homeschooling, Tidal Homeschooling, has fit perfectly into our homeschool. When Julie announced that she and Melissa would be speaking at the Brave Writer retreat, I knew that I had to hear these two homeschool gurus in person.
20th Century Charlotte Mason
When we started homeschooling, Charlotte Mason was appealing to me. I loved the emphasis on literature, especially living books. But, Ms. Mason’s philosophy had some components I just couldn’t put into practice. I tried, but then I would fail and begin to feel overwhelmed. I couldn’t live up to the 20th Century values in a 21st Century world.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe in most of Ms. Mason’s principles, but it was the “putting them into practice” that was causing me problems. I was secretly hiding that I wasn’t fully embracing the philosophy. My kids weren’t learning Handicrafts and Habits, and I detested going outside in the southern heat for Nature Study.
We are Charlotte Mason Slackers
And no matter how on schedule and planned I was in August, by January I was exhausted. I was ready to let the kids “veg” on screens. I was looking for workbooks and minimal effort by “Mom”.
And, it wasn’t just me.
The kids were worn out, too. They were ready to hibernate for winter. Call us when it’s spring when we can act like real people again. They needed inspiration. At some point, I gave up on Charlotte Mason’s values and structure and considered us slackers.
Charlotte let down your bun.
And so I was excited when Julie Bogart started speaking to me about Updating Charlotte Mason to the 21st Century at the retreat. She so eloquently brought Charlotte out of the 20th century and let her hair down.
Her talk made me realize it was absurd to hold myself to all the values of a society from another century. Trying to force ourselves into that mold is not only exhausting but, simply put, ridiculous.
I love the Charlotte Mason values of children being born persons and education being an atmosphere. I love the ideas of bringing all subjects together through living literature.
But, I also believe in using technology, something Ms. Mason didn’t have at her disposal, and each student making their own unique contribution to society. Julie reminded me that “this moment is different from her [Charlotte Mason’s] moment.”
We live in a different value set; not better, not worse, just different.
We live in a different value set (than the 20th century); not better, not worse, just different. #ihsnet Click To Tweet
Melissa Wiley is one of the most genuine people I have met.
Charlotte Mason Tidal School Ebb and Flow
As I was listening to Melissa Wiley speak about Tidal Homeschooling, I realized that I wasn’t giving myself enough credit. In those weeks when I felt so discouraged and exhausted, we hadn’t stopped schooling. We had just changed the way we homeschooled.
As Melissa describes it, we were in “low tide.”
You see “high tide” is that time when you’re feeling great as a homeschooler. The days are structured. The work is quantifiable. Subjects and activities define the days.
But, “low tide” is the time when there isn’t a lot of structure. It is a time when the kids are pursuing their interests and “mom” is an enabler… a facilitator. The house is covered in messy, creative projects. These days are harder to quantify and to me always seemed like jello — slippery and hard to manage.
But, that was where I was wrong. We weren’t “slackers” on those days. We were in “low tide.” Instead of fighting the tide, we are embracing it. The kids and I are discussing what we want to pursue in “high” and “low” tide… together. We’re giving ourselves permission to deviate from “the plan” for a time and learn organically.
These weren’t the only lessons I learned during the Brave Writer Retreat. Some I am still trying to process. I came home raw. My emotions and feelings were jagged. It has taken me days to work through some of my thoughts. It will take me some time before I can get all my reflections written down. But, for now, I am relishing this new freedom to homeschool the way that is best for us. And to keep in mind the words of Charlotte Mason,
Thought breeds thought; children familiar with great thoughts take as naturally to thinking for themselves as the well-nourished body takes to growing; and we must bear in mind that growth, physical, intellectual, moral, spiritual, is the sole end of education.
Do you go through tides in your homeschooling? What do your tides look like?
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I really like this thought! I have always felt kind of bad about not schooling through the summer, but we do a lot of crafts and other activities throughout the summer so I guess we are just on a low tide time. Thanks for the thoughts.
Yes! These exact same people completely inspired me in looking at my homeschool and Charlotte Mason in a new way. Happy to have just found your blog through Rock Your Homeschool and Periscope!
So glad to connect with another Charlotte Mason Tidal Schooler!
Beautifully written. I identify very much with the high tide and low tide analogy. I love Charlotte Masons ideas on education, but I also love the ideas of unschooling. We seem to kinda swing back and forth between the two as the year moves along. #hiphomeschoolingbloghop
I had never heard the term “Tidal Homeschooling” but I think that is what we did sort of naturally, just didn’t have a term for it. I, too, love Charlotte Mason’s philosophy but found it hard to do all that she suggested. I love the idea of “letting her hair down” to make her ideas fit better into the times we are living in.
The ideas of high tide and low tide are very freeing in a homeschool setting. We can’t always be following a strict schedule. Sometimes learning is done organically and the low tide times are perfect for that.
Thanks for sharing at the #LMMLinkup!
I love the Charlotte Mason method! Yes, I struggled with implementing it, not because we were too modern (we most definitely are NOT), but because I’m struggle with executive function issues – getting my brain all organized was hard. As well, my kids have a disorder that causes them to sleep crazy hours (7am-8pm anyone?). I drifted back to my unschoolish ways. It’s a comfortable blend for us. 🙂
That’s the beautiful thing about homeschooling. You can fit it to YOUR needs to YOUR family. Letting go of the guilt of “What should I be doing?” is the hardest part for me. But knowing that my kids are happy helps me to relax (well, and an occasional spoonful of Nutella 😉 ).
I love that there is a recognition that times do change but values do not. I think it is important to acknowledge this fact and the fact that not every mom is an outdoorsy mom. I wish I had heard more of this when my children were younger. I have always loved Charlotte Mason and the way she approached education and children. I did find some of the practical pieces as well as the support rather thin years ago. I have hope for my the families of the future. It sounds like there is more support and grace for today’s mom. Thank you so much for this post.
I think you are right and that the face of homeschooling is changing. There is so much support for moms now and the freedom to break from traditional molds and do what is best for their family. Thank you for commenting.
Yes! Exactly. With the holidays coming, I definitely feel low tide coming. Thank you. I so needed to read this today. Julie’s so fantastic, isn’t she?
The holidays and the winter are definitely low tide for us. And, yes, Julie is fabulous!